Parenthood

Pregnancy and childbirth are just the beginning. 

Having children and trying to maintain a happy, healthy and pleasurable relationship AND raise little humans with a positive awareness of sex, bodies and relationships themselves. 

When it comes to your sexual relationship, young children may leave you feeling over-touched and needing space rather than physical intimacy from a partner. Constantly being needed rather than wanted can affect how you see yourself psychologically.  Finding and taking time to be with each other becomes a challenge and spontaneity can often go out of the window. So, scheduling time for each to reconnect both sexually and emotionally with each other is important.

Before you know it, children are asking questions about bodies, ‘how babies are made’, sex and relationships. This may leave you feeling uncomfortable and worried about saying the right thing. It is important to remember that your discomfort is learnt behaviour perhaps because you have been conditioned not to talk about sex or these conversations in your youth led to embarrassment. 

Each age brings a variety of questions as social awareness increases. Honesty is the best policy. Children are not too young to learn about sex if they are asking questions about it. If you do not know an answer, say, and perhaps see if they want to learn together – using books or one of my sexercises. If you do know an answer, try to ensure correct names for body parts are used, and try to remove any elements of shame or fear. Sex is a positive and pleasurable experience. People ‘do it’ because they enjoy it! Regardless of gender, sexuality or relationship status.